FOLLOW YOUR HEART, ANYWAYS

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We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.

– Seneca

What if I fail?

What will people say?

What will happen to me if this does not work out?

How often have we told the above things to ourselves? How often we hurt our own chances to success with these notions? How often we take a step back from what we are interested to do?

First of all, we need to realise that not all things are meant to be successful. We need to understand and respect that failing gracefully is equally important to being successful. Those who are successful today have failed many times in the past. They take their lessons from the failures and re-invest them back into their steps towards success.

So stop, glorifying success and respect the failures to learn from them.

Secondly, if we have time enough to think “what if” then we definitely have time to work hard towards our dreams and goals. What will people say should not bother us coz we are busy in laying the foundation of our dreams? What will happen if we fail, should not stop us coz we are planning for both success and failures. If we fail, we should know to get up, dust ourselves and get back on track.

So stop second guessing. Don’t hold yourself back. Don’t put rocks on your own path. Don’t be your own detractor. Don’t add fuel to the gossip mills yourself.

Get busy trying, exploring, learning and being yourself.

WHO MAKES YOUR DECISIONS?

So I watched this movie ‘Paglait’ in Netflix and absolutely loved it. Many reasons for loving it though I am not here to write a movie review. I am writing about a very beautifully written dialogue and that which forms the cruz and summary of the storyline.

Agar hum apne faisle nahi lenge na

Toh doosre le lenge

Hame acha lage ya nahi

TRANSLATION:

If we don’t make/take our own decisions

Then others will take them for us

Even if we like it or not

From our birth our decisions have been taken by parents, relatives, siblings. Exactly when do we start making our own decisions. And why is there so much fear about taking decisions.

Part of being independent means to take decisions. Yes they cannot be guaranteed to be perfect or correct decisions. Well then who can ? We are here to make decisions – right and wrong and learn from them. Why the stigma around making correct choices and decisions. Yes, some decisions are life changing. Yes, some decisions can only hurt and result in loss. So what do we do. Can we sit duck on that situation without making any decision? No, right? We need to choose.

The one thing in our control is to choose after a good research and make a decision. Then work towards making that decision a good one. Rest everything lies in our destiny.

What are your thoughts? Have you been in crossroads where decisions mattered the most and someone else took them for you?